Time and again, I still find this piece of post by Liv to be very apt to my love life. I supposed, any other people who reads this would think the same too.
At times, we have to agree to the hypothesis of life that probably we are one of those puppets in a theater. A theater filled with intense dramatic plots that threaten to kill its puppets/actors at any point of time when it is least expected. Such invisible and definitely invincible force would ramp at you and later devouring your flesh and bones...slowly and agonizingly...
Ahh...then again, that is life isn't it? A beautiful but somewhat sad presentation soaked with pain, passion, love, hatred, lust, jealousy, greed, pride, fury and what else (7 deadly sins and all other definable emotions)? Sometimes when you are in a relationship, all of these emotions balled up into gigantic snowball...and in the end, you do not know what feeling it is any more.
How funny human life is, really. They love fierily like there's no tomorrow but like most French, when the sparks have gone, all that they termed as love would lose its meanings.
Whatever it is, when there is a consequence, there sure will be a cause. A couple will not fall out of love without a cause. I applaud those who brave themselves in acting out the solution because I felt that one can only grow from their past experiences. If one do not dare to face the music and avoid from finding a solution to the problem, he or she will only be entwined deeper by the root of the dilemma.
Oh well, I always thought, if you survived this one time, you'll be able to take the next one that comes along.
Now, enjoy the article I stole from Liv (LOL):
The Greatest Irony of Love is Loving the right person at the wrong time...
Having the wrong person when the time is right and finding out you love someone right after that person walks out of your life...
And sometimes, you think you're already over a person, but when you see them smile at you, you'll suddenly realize that you're just pretending to be over them just to ease the pain of knowing that they will never be yours again...
For some, they think that letting go is one way of expressing how much they love that person... in my opinion, some are afraid to see the one they love being held by someone else...
Most relationships tend to fail not because the absence of love. Love is always present. It's just that one was being loved too much and the other was being loved too little...
As we all know that the heart is the center of the body but it beats on the left. maybe that's the reason why the heart is not always right...
Most often we fall in love with the person we think we love but to only discover that for them we are just for passing time, while the one who truly loves us remains either a friend or a stranger...
So here's a piece of advice; Let go when you're hurting too much. Give up when love isn't enough...and move on when things are not like before... It's certain... there is someone out there who will love you even more...
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Question: If what was described in "The Irony of Love" is to be practised, when then would someone confidently say that, "He/She is the right one for me?" and cease to look elsewhere for love?
IMHO, the definition of Love differs from one party to another and the only way for one to have his/her partner understand its' meaning, is for them to communicate clearly with one another.
Further to that, a blissful relationship is not something void of sacrifices or unhappiness.
IMHO, the most important sacrifice while being in a relationship would be TOTAL Freedom. All talks about freedom in having close relations with the opposite sex, other than one's own beloved partner is bullsh*t. Imagine him/her maintaining a close relationship with someone of a different sex and calls them his/her closest friend(s). It would hurt any living soul. There should be no one closer to you, besides your beloved because you have chosen him/her and he/she has chosen you.
Both parties must also ensure that he/she acts responsibly to the one another. In essence, one may feel that it’s harmless to have friends of the opposite sex as dinner/movie/dance partners (on a one-to-one basis) or have the occasional hand-in-hand stroll down the park with that friend, it may actually be a very hurtful act to his/her partner. So, think about your partner and his/her tolerance to what is acceptable/not-acceptable before acting on the things which you may pass on as a norm. Don’t expect your partner to turn a blind-eye or coolly accept your explanation when you go around having exotic dances/hand-holding scenes/kiss-on-cheeks even when you think they are harmless. (Note: in most Asian cultures, the act of a one-to-one date/movie/dance or holding hands basically denotes a relationship is in bloom. So, please do not be offended by the backwardness if you are reading from a Westernized viewpoint. Like they say, “When in Rome, do what the Romans do”. For example, I also believe that for most Expatriates living/working in the Asian region, they are well aware that one should not have a steamy-dance with the partner of another guy in a club unless they are prepared for a fight).
In any case, I strongly believe that a relationship is something which both parties must partake to maintain and build upon. No single responsibility should fall squarely on one party or the other. If you think you are giving too much, it probably is time to talk about it clearly (don’t beat around the bushes) and let your partner know.
Well, these are all the principles which I live by. Chastise me if you need to, but at least I play by the rules =)
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